Sex is a human need. Most of us will admit that we love sex, that it is a part of ourselves that we share with the people that we love. What happens when you are in a relationship where sex is just not happening? How do you reconcile this? Many people feel as though they are totally alone and no one could possibly understand how they are feeling, but there are an alarming number of people who are in relationships where sex is just not happening very often, if at all.

If you want to have sex with the person that you are married to or in a relationship with, this is completely normal. Psychologists have indicated for decades that sex is an actual human need and when we are without it, it throws all of our needs off balance and can really eat away at who we are and what we want from life and even how we approach life.

If you are not having sex in your relationship you need to sit down and talk to your partner. Ask them what is going on? Why don't they want to have sex? If they insist that they just don't feel the urge, suggest that you try new things together to try to ignite that spark again. If they still are not feeling it, you need to suggest that you see a doctor together as there are many very simple reasons why people experience a decrease in their libido. When you make it something that you do together you can help give your mate the support that they need to get better so you can start enjoying intimacy together again.

If your spouse just doesn't want to have sex and doesn't want to do anything about it, you need to tell them that this is not acceptable to you. Tell them that you don't want to make them uncomfortable but that you have a physical need to have sex and you want to be close to them, to express your love to them. Tell them you want to find some sort of balance between their desires and yours. If they still do not want to compromise you may want to suggest that you seek counseling.

A sexless relationship can be really stressful. Not only are you not getting your physical needs met, you are also not getting your psychological needs met and you may wonder what is wrong with you that the person who supposedly loves you does not want to have sex with you. You need to re-examine the relationship and decide if this is something that you will settle for long term. A sexless relationship is something that most people do not want to live with, and you don't have to either.